[Puplove]

Originally Posted by canmarielan

I suppose I didn't think about it either way. Yeah I spoke to the site manager and she said that the person just has to identify themselves as trans at the door. As I am not trans, I didn't know that identifying as trans was a negative thing? Anyway, I understand those of you who don't want to come b/c of that.

Pup...I honestly don't think it's about excluding trans people or being a "female-identified lesbian" ONLY party. It's a party geared toward having women of all ages (though aimed at those above 30), races, classes, sexual orientation come together and have a blast.

Sorry this is causing such a issue, though I don't understand why.

CM! It's not YOU causing an issue, right?

But the policy does hurt a lot of our peeps. I think it's good to air feelings, opposing viewpoints and our unique experiences; we run the risk of starting to think everyone agrees if we never come up against a difference. Narrows the mind and makes conversations dull after a while.

My own issue is calling up the deep hurt feelings of the "get out of our place, you don't belong" I experienced when trying to go to "lesbian-only" clubs as a young(ish) pup searching for belonging. Plus, I get very squeamish about forcing our trans guys to say "yep, I'm not really a guy," and it hurts my feelings FOR them and us.

It's a fun plan for an event that bumps smack into the cold reality that makes up so much of our world, where you have to fit into an accepted gender or appearance or orientation to be welcomed.