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Goofy · 04-26-2011, 08:50 PM

I'm not trying to belabor the point Candace (really, I'm not) but I just wanted to try and provide a bit of a different perspective.

It's got very little to do with actually being trans and more to do with being required to disclose it to someone.

I am transgendered. I do not run around in my daily life and tell folks I meet that I am trans. Some people see me as male, some don't; sometimes I correct pronoun usage, sometimes I don't. Now say I were to go to this dance party and the door person sees me as male. Do I have to disclose that I am anything otherwise? Or if they look at my ID and see my birth name, do I then get a "pass"? Do you see how disheartening this could be?

I've got nothing against the Hot Flash Dances and I get the need for lesbian-only or women-only spaces. But I'm neither a woman nor a lesbian, so we won't be going.

04-26-2011, 08:50 PM	#2346
Goofy Member How Do You Identify?: Cheesecake Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: he Relationship Status: I'm blushing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Austin Posts: 300 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 120 Thanked 599 Times in 170 Posts Rep Power: 2573088	I'm not trying to belabor the point Candace (really, I'm not) but I just wanted to try and provide a bit of a different perspective. It's got very little to do with actually being trans and more to do with being required to disclose it to someone. I am transgendered. I do not run around in my daily life and tell folks I meet that I am trans. Some people see me as male, some don't; sometimes I correct pronoun usage, sometimes I don't. Now say I were to go to this dance party and the door person sees me as male. Do I have to disclose that I am anything otherwise? Or if they look at my ID and see my birth name, do I then get a "pass"? Do you see how disheartening this could be? I've got nothing against the Hot Flash Dances and I get the need for lesbian-only or women-only spaces. But I'm neither a woman nor a lesbian, so we won't be going.