[iamkeri1]

Yes, Just because a right is available to you does not mean you have to use it. Do what is best for each of you and the two of you as a couple. This legal development will, for you, provide an opportunity to evaluate the depth of your commitment, or at least the type of committment you will choose to make. Congratulations to you both. Be happy
Smooches,
Keri

Originally Posted by Lynn

I remember being a college student in the late 70's, demonstrating at the legislature for gay rights. What a long way we've come. I can hardly believe it! I did wake up feeling like it was a different world today. Of course, it isn't over yet. Most states do not recognize marriage equality, and there is still DOMA. I worry a little about the possibility of repeal. That doesn't look likely, but you never know.

My partner and I have been planning an October commitment ceremony. The invitations are already printed! Now we are considering the idea of a legal marriage. I'm glad that we *can* get married, but I'm not sure how I feel about it. I was previously married, for 20 years. The marriage wasn't so great, and the divorce was traumatic. I haven't been anxious to add that layer of complexity to a perfectly good relationship.

On the other hand, now that it's actually possible, it's easier for me to think about how we could make it work for us and our needs. Interesting how the mind works.