I cannot remember the title, but Rosie has the book. In the book there was a part about telling the truth to others. When people asked how you were to be honest. Tell them your back hurts, your m.s. is flairing up & you have to go to the grocery store and really don't feel like going, or you just got diagnosed with Lupus. I know I know...most will back up 100 feet and answer the question as most do (fine thanks and you?). This time I say just be real, honest, and put it out there. But that is just me being real. I would rather be me, and be real then otherwise.