[sylvie]

How you dealt with being the child of an alcoholic? i have always been very passive of his drinking until recently, he has relied on me for years to ensure he is okay, it's started to really affect his health these passed few years and now i find i'm very intolerant to many things i used to take on - and feeling extremely fed up.. i have a lot of issues, including an addiction of my own, to food & an eating disorder - which i am in therapy for and alot of emotional battles i struggle with regarding trust, self esteem, panic, stress etc..

Do you still harbor ill feelings? very much so, i'm full of anger about it, things i have swallowed for years and years - emotions, having to grow up so early in life to take care of him, & the alcohol always coming first - things like that - i feel i'm finally ready to take these feelings on, and to stop enabling him.

Have you forgiven your parent/parents? it goes deeper than the alcoholism, so no.. i've not forgiven, but could i? i'm not sure, right now i'm working through my own issues, and i' m no longer taking his issues on anymore.. i've told him, if he needs medical attention, i'm there.. and if he decides to seek help for his addiction, i'm there with bells on... otherwise, i just can't anymore.

Did/do you seek counseling? i do, i did 4 weeks through my work EAP program, and am now starting soon for therapy for my eating disorder, just awaiting the date, just went for the intake last week. the therapy has been for my eating disorder, as well as my father's alcoholism, my past, etc. But it's certainly helped me come to terms with letting go, and putting me first.

Do you yourself drink? no, i do not drink, at all.. only as a teen on rare occasions, but really am not fond of alcohol whatsoever.

If you ARE the alcoholic parent of child/ren... n/a