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Originally Posted by Star Anise
And lately (I am not sure whether it is happening more, whether I am noticing it more, or whether I am just being more sensitive to it) but I feel like butch women don’t take me seriously, and treat me like an idiot, or dismiss me as being shallow simply for the fact that I am wearing cosmetics, and feminine clothes and (most importantly for me) having fun with my clothes!
I will post more on this topic soon, I am really just feeling utterly depressed and rejected right now.
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Good Morning Star Anise,
There have been many times I have felt dismissed etc, regardless of the company (audience), since I read as "straight", whatever that is, (but seems to be changing, maybe cause I'm approaching them more often?) Although I think of myself as very feminine, I don't go much into makeup and the clothes thingie much anymore. All those Women Studies classes, and highly visible strong lesbian professors kinda rubbed off on me.
On the rare occasions that I'm in a "gay" bar, I find that peeps don't talk to me, or ask me to dance, but to my way of thinking it's because they don't even know my name let alone how I think. So speaking for myself, I usually read peeps stand-offish-ness as just "uh oh, new person!"
So, now with experience and a dash of Femme "wevos" (don't know correct spelling, my bad) which in my area means "Eggs", (read as ovaries) I just sashay over and introduce myself, don't engage in much eye contact with butches who are sitting with obvious dancing partner, and if asked to sit with them, I am polite, using my best manners and join them.
If the music moves me, I dance by myself. Actually, the most fun I ever had was dancing with a beautiful Femme half my age. (She reminded me of an old girlfriend Pam, who was my BF until I moved out of the area, remember, this was the mid 70's so no technology to keep in touch like today). The lovely young Femme and I both danced with a belly dance style, so was probably erotic to watch that night.
She ended up with a very HOT HOT HOT Butch that evening, who could match all her moves with a passionate Latina counter move, they were so hot on the dance floor we were all hooting and hollering that night. I went home alone, as usual, which is my preference.
Hummmm, must be in story-sharing mood today......
If you are interested, you might want to see if there are belly dancing groups in your area, you would be amazed at the number of Femmes who belong to such groups. It's a great way to boost your self confidence, even if you don't want to perform publicly, just for your Lover. Plus the advantage to this style of dancing is that it keeps you limber and in tune to your heart/soul/spirit etc.
And if you are into "Dress-up" Sugar, start making your own costumes.... mmmm, now THAT'S
