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Originally Posted by tapu
Taking my life in my own hands, I would just like to say:
Hey! Who's up for some lesbian leaping, huh?  |
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Originally Posted by JustJo
I'm not much of a leaper....but I do a mean cannonball in the pool.  |
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Originally Posted by tapu
Here come the cannonballing lesbians? Heck, maybe that's even better, Ducky!
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Originally Posted by Yellow band
Ducky sounds to the musculine of center.
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Originally Posted by JustJo
Only my ducky side is masculine of center. Well, that and my pushy, project manager, task driven work self too I suppose.
My manicure loving side is female of center. As are my girly gestures and love of strappy sandals.
My mommy side is my emotional center.
The kitchen is the house center (for me).
My politics are left of center.
And I'm right handed.
However...I've never lived in Kansas, despite it being the geographical center.
Perhaps I'm just confused (or maybe I'm just me).  |
I have been following the conversation regarding BV, female vs. male (feminine vs. masculine) leadership, the feelings of erasure and invalidation of female ID'd butches and non qualified butches (for those who just claim "butch") and I just have to say that it feels really, really negating to have the frivilious comments interjected as the ones I have quoted here.
Its obvious that this is a conversation that isn't easy or not close to folks' hearts. Why is this shit necessary?
It seems very immature and demeaning to me. If I can't add to the conversation at hand, I generally just read. Doesn't mean I am not interested if I don't participate nor does it mean that its not important. Perhaps I am too busy to be able to take the time to engage and stay engaged. Perhaps I need time to reflect on others' posts and get my own in order.
What really silences me is when I am moving right along, reading the conversation and then WHAM! It really distracts and deflects. Is that the purpose?
Would it happen in other forums such as the Femme, Butch or Trans zones? I can't help but believe it would cause quite the ruckus and while I can't recall a specific instance, I feel almost certain it has happened in those zones.
Why can't we have the important conversations without the attempts at levity? Is it too uncomfortable?
My apologies for the rant. I watched it happen a couple of days ago and didn't say anything for lack of time, but today, it just really crawled all over me. Perhaps others don't share my view and that's really ok.
I really hope the conversations can continue. They are important.
Christie