Keep in mind MBE and I are switches... And since it can be hard, J is the switch side of me...
We've gone through changes. Some bad, some good. I had to have an attitude adjustment. And she had to learn some nasty lessons. We stepped back into an equal role, yet at the same time I always know who is in charge. I ask for permission to do things -- sometimes. If it goes outside the scope of my reality, which is really too hard to explain, I ask for permission.
The one thing that never changed is the feeling of her strength over me when I can't do it anymore.
Last week, I found out I was, in many ways, disowned by my parents for being trans. I'm not welcome home, that's for sure. As a result, being dominant is proving to be almost impossible. I can at times, but most of the time, I just can't right now.
Lucky for me, she understands what I'm going through and is such an amazing person.
What amazes me is that, being switches, when I can't; she can and vice versa.
For now, she leads. And I follow. I trust that she is capable of holding her own and she trusts I'm doing okay. As my dominant, she is my strength.
For us, I guess that's what it comes down to.
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