[The Oopster]

Originally Posted by Hunter Green

Here are my questions:

If you are an FTM, and consider yourself a man, ID as a man and live as a man:

1. Why do you wish to hang around with dykes?

2. Why are you interested in relationships with gay women as opposed to straight women?

3. How are you any different than any straight guy off the street, and why do you come here, to this site, which is for butch and femme lesbian women?

4. How do you think a straight man, who wished to join us here, would be received, in contrast to how you are received here?


Thanks in advance!

1. I actually hang around with very few dykes per say. If I hang around with more than I realize it's because I tend not to categorize my friendships that way. I hang around people of all sizes, shapes, ethniticities, and who fit numerous categories.

2. I personally am not dating at this time. When the time is right I have stated many times that I hope not to limit myself to one specific area and thus maybe miss out on something terrific. I hope the same that when someone looks at me they don't throw me into a specific category and not give me a chance. I hope that a gay womans sole criteria for not dating me wouldn't because I identify as transgender. Likewise I hope that a straight womans sole crieteria for not dating me wouldn't be due to the fact I wasn't born with a penis. I hope that whoever dates me dates me for a lot more than that. That they can look beyond those things to the inner core of who I am. Likewise I hope to look beyond labels to the inner core of who someone else is.

3. Like others have stated before, this site isn't limited to just butch and femme lesbian women. Like many of they others even though down deep inside of me I always identified as male, I was unable to recognize that and claim that. Coming to that point was a process and this community was a part of that process. Fortunately when I came to this community there were other ftms and transmen on this and similiar sites. If they hadn't been here who knows how long it would have taken me to come to terms with who I am. To give back to the community I stay here for the same reason, that some other lost soul may have someone to identify with. If I would have had to gone to a transgendered or ftm site to find my people I may never have found them. Like others have shared what transgendered and ftm encompass is vast. I really don't claim the ftm label but like someone else stated I come to this thread and frequent that community because it's the closest match to who I am. I identify as a tranny guy or transmale. To many outside the community that looks the same, and so that label sometimes gets thrown on me or sometimes I take it out of laziness because it's the closest thing out there that those outside the community may understand or have heard of.

4. It's actually hard to imagine a straight male coming to this site unless they have some history with this community. Chances are they have some interest. Maybe it's to educate themselves, maybe it's just to cause problems, maybe it's just to perv. Hopefully this community would be welcoming if the person is considerate and respectful of the site and the people on it. But unless it happens people can only say how they think and hope people would respond.