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					Originally Posted by  SecretAgentMa'am
					 
				 
				Me too, but mostly for her.  It was really emotionally difficult for me (I was attracted to him and liked him, but I was ass over teakettle for her and constantly trying to figure out what I was doing wrong since she said she loved me but often acted like she couldn't even stand to be in the same room with me), and after I came to that realization I started to feel like I hadn't been her girlfriend so much as an accomplice in her husband's campaign of sexual coercion.  That was the last time I ever had a relationship with a couple, even though I did identify as polyamorous for a couple more years after that. 
			
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 *nod*  absolutely. He sounds like a jerkface.  I think that happens pretty frequently.
I've actually never been involved with a couple.  I never wanted to be, it just always sounded a little complicated and negotiation-heavy.  And I'm terrible at that sort of thing.