If I may reply: coming out is almost a lifelong process. First we come out to ourselves, then maybe close friends or family, then perhaps the larger world or @ our place of employment.
That you came out 4 years ago is fairly recent. I came out 30 years ago and still struggle at times with certain aspects of the process.
That said, if you are a fairly regular size, you can always buy clothing online. I almost never shop in stores any more and I am a femme! I shop online all the time. You can order anything at all and if it doesn't fit, ship it back and exchange it! All the online stores I shop at have great mens clothing: J.crew, LLBean, Nordstroms, Lands End, or even Amazon has shops or you can buy on EBay. I have found some fantastic clothes, like NotYourDaughtersJeans that cost a fortune @ Nordstroms for 1/2 price on EBay and they were brand-new!
Regardless, be kind to yourself. Self-acceptance is difficult but not impossible!
You can dress any damn way you please that makes you feel good and I bet you look awesome
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~Anya~
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