[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by 1QuirkyKiwi

That some members of my Scottish family maybe finally accepting the fact that I'm gay. ....I'm forever the optimist.

Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn

One black spot in the rest of my amazing and wonderful Christmas Day...

... Its one thing to know and understand your parents dont and wont accept you... or support you for who you are... Its possible to look the other way as long as they do the same...

... however, it hurts... when they throw it back in your face...

... Talking to my mom today, about the idea of moving out of the country... and how difficult it is to get a work visa as a teacher in Canada... her response was, well marry some rich, kind man... that would make it simple... I said, actually mom, in Canada I can marry a woman if I want to... and she just right out says... "You need to marry a man." ... *blink* and the conversation ends there... This is nothing new... I have been out for a while now, I am not changing my mind, or going back in the closet for them... *sigh*

but... maybe I do need to stop letting the intolerance slide... maybe I need to put down my foot and put up some barriers... I deserve to be loved by my "family" and if the one I was born with cant do that unconditionally... Maybe its time I concentrated on the one I'm building that does...

Originally Posted by Dominique

I come from a family of Homophobes too. In my immediate family, all thats left is my sister. She officially disowned me after my brothers funeral. Life became a little easier. Sad but true. If no chosen family is left when I finally croak off, animal rescue league will be heir to my estate.

Anyhow, the standard line I am subjected to, be it a funeral, wedding or a run in at a grocery store is *Will you ever lead a normal life?* To which I reply *Tsk, Define Normal, like yours you mean?* Just once I'd love to be asked *How are you?* or *So, what are you doing now?* I found out long ago, life goes on...without them.

Still on that river in Egypt! ….De-Nile!

It seems I was a little too optimistic and mistook their, what appeared to be ‘acceptance’ of my sexuality, when in fact it was their choosing to ignore (yet again!) the obvious truth about me and clinging on too school playground prejudices!

I’m staying with them over Hogmanay in Scotland until the 2nd January….Oh the joy!