[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Bard

reading all the posts about families that refuse to except you as you are it makes me very sad ... Desd and I are both very lucky in that respect both sides of the family take us and love us as we are. We spent Christmas with her folks and they treat me as if I was one of their own and they love my daughter. My dad and Jen love Desd and are coming for the wedding from AZ. It never made a bit if difference to Dad that I was gay he takes me and loves me just as I am and her adores his granddaughter and make no mistake she is his even if my EX is her Bio mom Goose is still his granddaughter and he would fight anyone who said different

I’m very fortunate that my Maternal Grandparents were accepting, as was my twin brother and my English cousin and his parents. I’m closer to my English cousin than my Scottish ones and on my first time in the UK to study, he and my Aunt and Uncle were here and offered support….it was my first time away from my family and I was on the other side of the world and very scared. My cousin was there to show me London and get me accustomed to the city (….in the early 90s, London had just under twice the population as the entire country of NZ. I was used to a traffic jam of 15 cars and a million sheep! LOL!).

My cousin is protective of me….I’m like the little sister he never had and he is like another older brother (in no way does he replace my late twin brother). I was living in Scotland trying to spend time with my family; only, I constantly kept getting why wasn’t I married to a MAN and the various other comments. I was offered a job in London, again and took it! Nope! That didn’t go down well at the time, but, I said it was a promotion of sorts (it wasn’t an untruth, lol!).

I accept that my Scottish side of the family will most likely never accept that I’m gay and that is OK! ….even though it hurts. I see them once a year, less when living over seas and we email and chat on the phone.