[kittygrrl]

I've learned, that it's almost impossible to understand another person's pain unless I have personal experience..Even if you're empathetic and close to the situation..unless you are going thru the exact same thing..you just can't..ie losing a child to suicide..unimaginable unless you've had a similar loss..so whether it's by choice or some other compelling need that drives some of us to certain ends or paths the only thing we as bystanders can do is to offer whatever kind of support or comfort we are able to give..which usually falls short of what a person going thru a life alternating change probably needs..it's one of those things you have to do mostly alone..really hard, and very lonely.