[Tommi]

Please ..keep the candles burning, and add to the flames for Peggie. Realizing we are not immortal and when we get old the candles need to be brighter.
I have gotten some great suggestions on how to handle a very difficult situation with ideas that never crossed my mind. In the middle of a storm sometimes you lose your way. I just found out the house I signed off on in 1997, is still in " our" names, and thought that was a bad thing..until someone splained it to me that if the situations gets to the point where Peggie can't make decisions and I am the Power of Attorney, that would be easier for me to deal with.

An offer to take my Ex-wife of many years in surprised me and brought me to tears today. . Move her from California to Ohio. We seperated in 1997, but have ties that bind when the pedal hits the metal. ( I quitclaimed the houe to her for $1.oo, but she never filed the papers or cashed the check). I had no idea, and had walked far away. I moved out and left it for her and Leia.

Leia, the Grandaughter we raised wants to take care of Peggie. She told me we were great parents and she would never want her Bamma to go anywhere else if she can't live alone anymore. Diagnosed with COPD and emphasema recently, and week as a kitten, on oxygen 24/7, down to skin and bones and living alone the world we lived in is disappearing for her. She called me in Sept , I rushed to the house, rushed her to the hospital where she was in ICU for several days and almost died. There is no family nearby, no friends in the neighborhood. We all live far from each other.

I was brought to tears, ~ happy tears by this adult child of ours. With two little kids of her own, her Hubby a Tech. Sgt in the Air Force, just back from his 3rd tour in Afgnanastan, just moved -re=stationed from So. Dakota to Wright Patterson, in Ohio, just reconciled they had talked it over before I ever called her.

I called to tell Leia she needed to come home and get anything out of the house she wanted beause Peggie may have to move to Oregon, with Fred (Peg's eldest son) or to assisted living of some kind for a while. She said "NO, she can't go there. Uncle Fred doesn't want her or he would have come down to get her already. Paul and I are looking into getting her here on base. """"" WOW. "We know somebody who brought their Gramma here. (HOW SWEET that kid is when I least expect it)

I never IMAGINED Peggie going there, and still can't but ..who knows! . Leia said, " I have always wanted MY Gramma to come live with us. She saved my life, you guys kept me safe, you kept my druggie Mom away from me. Paul and the kids love her and we need her too. Tell her for me. I'll take really good care of her. I promise RayRay""""

I smiled big ....sniff

Love goes round,
Tommi Ray