[dark_crystal]

Originally Posted by Truly Scrumptious

I have never had an abortion, so I am not going to claim to understand the feelings around it, though obviously I can assume I understand them. I am, however, a survivor of sexual abuse, and I am intimately acquainted with the feelings surrounding it. I also know I can’t be the only one reading this thread who is a survivor

i am a rape survivor

Originally Posted by Truly Scrumptious

my question to the other survivors is, do you believe this can be called rape?

no

Originally Posted by Truly Scrumptious

I can see that it’s coercion, I can see that it’s force, but for some reason, the word just doesn’t sit well with me. Somehow (for me) it seems to diminish the word rape, somehow (for me) it takes away some of the horror, somehow (for me) it allows a tiny bit of minimalization, and (for me) that can never happen.

exactly


for example- i was taken to the emergency room after a car accident b/c i reported neck pain.

once you do this, you are not allowed to move.

before doing x-rays, they had to know whether i was pregnant.

i told them i was a lesbian and could not possibly be pregnant.

They said "lots of women say that and then turn out to be pregnant"

since i wasn't allowed to move, plus i was menstruating, they had to catheterize me to get a urine sample to check for a pregnancy that could not exist

catheterization HURTS LIKE A MOTHERFUCKER

it was painful, traumatic, invasive, and uneccesary...

but when i compare it with being abducted from a parking lot and drivien into the wooods for a stranger's sick thrills


not so much