(((((( PinkieLee ))))))
And what I said to Anya also applies to you lovely lady.
You have just gone through one of the toughest things there is...and you are not a failure for being human, for being emotional, for being sad, and for trying to make yourself feel better.
Sometimes I think we need to reframe it.
Let me tell you a true story.
The company I work for is a health provider...not a doctor or a hospital. We create and provide wellness solutions...like fitness, smoking cessation, health coaching, etc.
One of our health coaches posted on our intranet some months back about a major victory. The entire company recognized it and celebrated it. Guess what it was?
A client, who had Type 2 diabetes and several other chronic conditions, had finally agreed to work with one of our coaches. The goal they set was to try to reduce his consumption of unhealthy sweets. This client had the practice of going
every day to Dairy Queen and getting a large Blizzard....that yummy soft ice cream and crushed up cookies or candy thing that I also love.
The success?
The client had changed their practice...and was now going only twice a week and getting a small Blizzard.
That's worth celebrating....because it is a success, not a failure.
So....instead of counting the day a failure if you eat more than you planned....what about counting each small success? What if you focus on the single instance when you wanted ice cream and had something healthy instead? Or took a hot bath? Or read a book to distract yourself?
Sometimes our victories may only last a few minutes....but we need to focus on them, and strive for more of them....not be hard on ourselves for the times we stumble.
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Originally Posted by PinkieLee
((((((((*Anya*))))))))))))))
My friend, you are NOT alone.
Since D's mom's death (almost 2 weeks), I have been on a downward spirial myself. Every single day I wake up and I say, "today I won't binge". And every day I go to bed a failure, because I haven't been able to just say no. Again, I feel as though I am in an addiction mode right now.
Emotional eating and/or trying to fill a void with food, has been a lifelong problem for me.
I keep telling myself that when things get better, I will get better. But right now, it's more like a bunch of fake ass affirmations that are spitting out of my mouth.
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