And... and... I have dated my share of models and dancers (both ballet dancers and burlesque dancers), as well as a figure skater and a figure competitor - all which have A LOT of pressure to look a certain way.
Truth be told, I'd rather a girl who actually wants to eat meals and desserts with me. Constantly obsessing over food takes some of the enjoyment and excitement out of having a good meal. That observation has no connection to someone's size, just her attitude. A healthy outlook on food is a beautiful thing. It's one of life's simple pleasures; a necessity that I feel we should all enjoy.
I pointed out to a few of my exes that I hoped they would be able to eat things they wanted without feeling guilty. They blew up at me and said I should not rag on them for watching their diet if I want them to look good. My reply was, "Well, you're the one who cares so much if you gain a little weight, not me. You would still look good."
The guilt and stigma attached to "splurging" on food is not related to size, either... it's a tragic complex the media has given to women of all body types. When we're inundated with airbrushed models, commercials about diet pills/fat loss supplements, tabloids about who gained weight and who looks fat, and peers who swallow this information till it consumes them, it can be tough not to get sucked in and allow it to eat you, too.
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