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What I am getting the most from this thread right now is about deep hurt around divisive labels/identifications. I don't exactly know why this is just more salient to me in this particular thread (or site), but I just have a much more positive feeling inside about our communication. And this just feels so much better because I want to get past the places where we get stuck so often.

When I think about being butch, it is about a multi-faceted array of constructs. And when I run head-on into the negative stuff I hear at let's say, events like the dyke march during pride (or some other LGB-"TI" event), I become so bewildered. The assumptions about the B-F dynamic and trans-people (including the inter-gendered) along with the B-F dynamic in general remain stuck in what we are talking about. Doesn't matter at all about individual identifications. So much of this has been part of my experience throughout many years now.

I do understand how and why certain identifiers have ended up as terms that can inflame and cause division. I am thinking that developing more sensitivity to this is one way I can at least diffuse some of this. I remember feeling somewhat angry in a thread in the dist site in which I felt I had to keep posting disclaimers concerning TG/I identities to ward off being viewed as anti-trans. My struggle was with needing to claim my female butch identification with pride, but knowing that TG/I friends and a family member also needed my support and for me to just be aware of the other side of the coin.

What I have been experiencing here from many male-identified, TG/I butches (and their partners) feels much more mutually supportive.

Thinking we need a whole lot more of this! I can't see developing more inclusive and positive butch frameworks without sifting out what sets apartmale and masculine. This is just a part of opening one's mind and not depending on stereotypic, or assummed definitions (for me, anyway).

:LGBTQFlag:Hey, maybe we all will gather under this flag once and for all!