[kittygrrl]

get out now, even with therapy she can and probably will relapse..it's hard to let go of someone who meets your needs on other levels but realize she isn't the only one out there who can..you need therapy too because being battered leaves you vunerable to choose someone who is a lot like your ex. It's very typical of women who have suffered from abuse to have a very hard time letting go...I work with battered women( for a living) and I see the same women who without therapy will out of 50 normal people will be attracted to the one person who will abuse them..It's typical behavior for most abusers to be so very sorry...........until it happens again. Hoping it will stop is like hoping the moon won't rise. Don't waste years thinking she will change she won't, she will use up your youth, destroy your self esteem, and if she finally leaves you will take everything she can from you and feel totally justified because this is all your fault (of course) if there is a hell, this is at least one of them. Love yourself enough to get out and resolve to stay away from her. It will take some time to get over her, be patient, seek therapy and be well.