[princessbelle]

That is such a great article Quintease!!! Thanks for sharing that.

I appreciate all of it, but this really hit home...

"In some ways my invisibility is preferable. I can safely move throughout the mainstream world untethered to a certain identity, while butch lesbians wear their sexuality on their sleeve. My girlfriend can rarely go into a public bathroom without getting a second, confused glance. That’s hard. But she’s also a smash in specifically gay spaces, she gets to fully embody an identity, and she’d get laid more often than the girl in the skirt we’re unsure about."

So basically in the straight world, most of the time, many of us "femmes" have straight privilege and most butch women do not. I don't get the stares in the bathroom ect. But, it is such a two edged sword. I also don't get the acknowledgement of being gay around my people. It does make it more apparent to them now that i walk with my butch, but it is still questionable to family, i'm sure.

I've writtin about this before but one of my first lesbian parties i went to i was so excited but was treated differently. There was not one single femme there, that i could tell, and i was a total outsider. People would stop talking when i walked up to them and just glare at me.

Back then, i certainly felt like i didn't fit in the straight world or the gay world and that was really difficult and i spent many nights crying about it. I was very much alone in this world.

Being femme is not as easy as it looks. Being femme is hard sometimes. Being femme brings it's own set of problems and issues and difficulties with fitting in.

But. I am now proud of who i am. I could never be anything else if i stay true to myself. And I plan on it.