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jac · 04-14-2012, 05:54 PM

This thread has made me wonder and think all freakin’ day long.

I am a lesbian female, a woman that loves women. I have no intention of changing my gender. I like being a woman that loves women. However, I do so enjoy sex a specific way and that way is determined between my partner and myself. It changes and grows and fluctuates as time goes on…

Yes, I have said I am a stone on this site and even my name has stone in it because this was how I was seeing myself when I was in question years ago. But really... seriously... what is stone? It's each individual's perspective of who they are and what they want.

I am realizing more and more as I get older that I don’t particularly care for the labeling like I use to. It’s not going to change who I am to “say” I am this or that. I know who I am and my partner knows who I am… and really that is all that matters anymore. To look at me walking down the street one would think I was a typical white Caucasian with fair skin and blonde hair but in all reality I am three-quarters Spanish. Does this mean I need to go around saying “Hey I’m so and so and I am Spanish so get it right,” I don’t think so.

I do prefer the more masculine pronouns but if Joe Blow passes me by and refers to me by a feminine pronoun I am not going to freak on his ass. What purpose will that serve me? To be rude to another human-being will only be demeaning to the person I am, a loving, caring compassionate individual. Maybe I’m talking in riddles and not making much sense to the readers of this thread but basically I am saying I am comfortable being me, having sex with my partner as we do, and living my life in peace.

So OP the issue from what I see is not who you are and what you like or prefer but how you disrespected others… Let’s all work to have a little understanding of one another and compassion for each other and if that is just too much to ask for, then let’s try to find a point of agreeing to disagree and move along and past all of this.

If this is the “home” that we are to come to as a stone, I will continue searching… cause home shouldn’t feel this painful and sad. Home shouldn’t have all this fighting and bickering….

04-14-2012, 05:54 PM	#70
jac Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: butch stone Preferred Pronoun?: masculine ones work best... Relationship Status: ♥ engaged to spritz ♥ Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: bangor, maine Posts: 3,344 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 20,720 Thanked 16,492 Times in 2,972 Posts Rep Power: 0	This thread has made me wonder and think all freakin’ day long. I am a lesbian female, a woman that loves women. I have no intention of changing my gender. I like being a woman that loves women. However, I do so enjoy sex a specific way and that way is determined between my partner and myself. It changes and grows and fluctuates as time goes on… Yes, I have said I am a stone on this site and even my name has stone in it because this was how I was seeing myself when I was in question years ago. But really... seriously... what is stone? It's each individual's perspective of who they are and what they want. I am realizing more and more as I get older that I don’t particularly care for the labeling like I use to. It’s not going to change who I am to “say” I am this or that. I know who I am and my partner knows who I am… and really that is all that matters anymore. To look at me walking down the street one would think I was a typical white Caucasian with fair skin and blonde hair but in all reality I am three-quarters Spanish. Does this mean I need to go around saying “Hey I’m so and so and I am Spanish so get it right,” I don’t think so. I do prefer the more masculine pronouns but if Joe Blow passes me by and refers to me by a feminine pronoun I am not going to freak on his ass. What purpose will that serve me? To be rude to another human-being will only be demeaning to the person I am, a loving, caring compassionate individual. Maybe I’m talking in riddles and not making much sense to the readers of this thread but basically I am saying I am comfortable being me, having sex with my partner as we do, and living my life in peace. So OP the issue from what I see is not who you are and what you like or prefer but how you disrespected others… Let’s all work to have a little understanding of one another and compassion for each other and if that is just too much to ask for, then let’s try to find a point of agreeing to disagree and move along and past all of this. If this is the “home” that we are to come to as a stone, I will continue searching… cause home shouldn’t feel this painful and sad. Home shouldn’t have all this fighting and bickering….