[Kobi]

It saddens me to read things about people with questionable manners who make illogical assumptions and demands on other people.

It makes me think things like people are not seen as people but as objects. That it is ok to use others to get things....even something as simple as a piece of toast. That it is a power and privilege thing. That it is a game of unhealthy interpersonal dynamics.

I dont see it as a butch thing or a femme thing or a spectrum thing. I see it as a people thing. People do weird shit for even weirder reasons.

I also dont necessarily see this behavior as a character issue tho it does raise some red flags. Sometimes, the behavior has a malacious intent. Sometimes it may be inexperience or role confusion or other things.

Regardless of where it comes from, dont hesitate to stand up for yourself. There is nothing sexier than a woman who demands the respect she deserves.