Sounds familiar in a few ways
I reached a point in my 10 year marriage where the adult daughter of my ex-wife's dysfunction, the noise of the grandbaby & dog, & the stress of a tumultuous time with parents dying etc. I needed a break. I moved out around the corner from my wife & we continued that way for about 6-7 months. I was fine with it. I was NOT looking, seeing, talking with or having ANY contact with ANY other people ...nor was she. I had been laid off & decided to move "home" to VA. It didn't mean I stopped loving my wife at all. I actually had hoped & wished she would move here when she retired. That will never happen so we tried the LD relationship & well, that wasn't enough for her. She sounds like you in that she wants a live-in by her side always partner who loves Alabama, children, football etc. That's not me & never has been or will be. I want to be "with" someone, yes but only if it's comfortable for BOTH of us. But, I digress.....LOL.....& I apologize.
Bottom line as I see it is this.......If it never got any better than it is RIGHT now.....is it good enough? if not, then perhaps "waiting" for it to become what you want is a waste of your time. Right NOW is all we have. There ARE people out here that WILL be ble to give you the things you need. If you "feel" betrayed or cheated upon.....then why stay? Can you really rebuild a trust? If you can....then maybe staying is ok......but, you cannot control your partner. If she is interested in another than let her be. That is her path & to wait for something, or expect to "change" the other person to be what YOU want & need....well, that's swimming upstream & most likely to no avail.
Just my thoughts on it.......do what you need to do & want to do for YOU. YOU are the most important person in YOUR life.....we ALL are in our lives too.
Best of luck with whatever your decision is. May you find peace.
Jonathan
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