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BrutalDaddy · 05-27-2012, 06:46 PM

Taylor, I understand exactly where you're coming from as far as knowing you're in the wrong body. In the exact same boat myself. However I'm fortunate enough to have a family that "gets it" to one extent or another and those that don't, I don't even pay them any mind.

The lady I married has played a huge part in my family being so accepting of me because they adore her to the max. One of those, "you're not ever going to do any better than that so don't screw it up!" deals. Lol.

I live in the deep south. Have all my life. Used to bother me a whole lot how folks would look at me and the comments that almost always followed the looks. But that special lady has helped me to realize that the only person I should care about the views/opinions/feelings of is myself. I wasn't much good to her because of my own self hatred. I was harder on myself then any of those ignorant folks I come across. That self hatred caused me to lash out at myself and those that care very deeply for me.

I have come to realize, through femmsational and AA, that unless I am comfortable with myself, I have nothing to offer those around me. It's been a huge work in progress but I'm happier then I have been in a long time and I'm noticing the effect it's having on those I care about.

From what you've said about your girlfriend in NY, sounds like she might be a real good influence on helping you to be who you really are? If so then you'll actually become an even better parent to your son because there will be no more negative energy radiating around you and trust me, that will be felt by all those around you.

I won't say what I think of your mom out of respect for the fact that she is your mother. However I will say this, don't pay her any mind. Many react with anger because of fear of the unknown. She obviously can't or won't understand and that scares her, not understanding ya know? It hurts, I know. My real sperm donor treats me that way to point of pretending I'm dead now. Oh well, his loss. I'm getting to a place where I'm real happy now. You can to.

If you felt that peace up in NY then maybe take that leap? The little town you're from will always be there I imagine so not like you can't ever go back. Just take care of you. If you take care of you, the rest will follow.

Good Luck To You Bro,
AJ.

05-27-2012, 06:46 PM	#6
BrutalDaddy Member How Do You Identify?: Her Asshole. Preferred Pronoun?: Him, hym, he, whatever. Relationship Status: Bitch has no more excuses now. Join Date: May 2012 Location: Lower Alabama Posts: 519 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 206 Thanked 2,785 Times in 499 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Taylor, I understand exactly where you're coming from as far as knowing you're in the wrong body. In the exact same boat myself. However I'm fortunate enough to have a family that "gets it" to one extent or another and those that don't, I don't even pay them any mind. The lady I married has played a huge part in my family being so accepting of me because they adore her to the max. One of those, "you're not ever going to do any better than that so don't screw it up!" deals. Lol. I live in the deep south. Have all my life. Used to bother me a whole lot how folks would look at me and the comments that almost always followed the looks. But that special lady has helped me to realize that the only person I should care about the views/opinions/feelings of is myself. I wasn't much good to her because of my own self hatred. I was harder on myself then any of those ignorant folks I come across. That self hatred caused me to lash out at myself and those that care very deeply for me. I have come to realize, through femmsational and AA, that unless I am comfortable with myself, I have nothing to offer those around me. It's been a huge work in progress but I'm happier then I have been in a long time and I'm noticing the effect it's having on those I care about. From what you've said about your girlfriend in NY, sounds like she might be a real good influence on helping you to be who you really are? If so then you'll actually become an even better parent to your son because there will be no more negative energy radiating around you and trust me, that will be felt by all those around you. I won't say what I think of your mom out of respect for the fact that she is your mother. However I will say this, don't pay her any mind. Many react with anger because of fear of the unknown. She obviously can't or won't understand and that scares her, not understanding ya know? It hurts, I know. My real sperm donor treats me that way to point of pretending I'm dead now. Oh well, his loss. I'm getting to a place where I'm real happy now. You can to. If you felt that peace up in NY then maybe take that leap? The little town you're from will always be there I imagine so not like you can't ever go back. Just take care of you. If you take care of you, the rest will follow. Good Luck To You Bro, AJ.