Some really great advice here. Gonna add a few links to maybe help educate your family. This is a pamphlet that you should read and decide if you want to give it to your mother. I advise it... no matter what the outcome.
this is a free pdf file
http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_...5thedition.pdf
When I decided to come out to family or decide to come out to old friends or new people...i remind myself that it is important to remember that everyone had/has to accept my transition on their time and at their emotional pace. i can't control that. Nor, would i want to. I also, can't control the outcome and have to accept that they would come to their own conclusions.
It was a very frightening thought and truth...that i could lose part of my family. i had to be selfish and love myself enough to be myself. and to be me meant... that i could lose family. In addition, losing a new girlfriend at the time.
So, the ? was...take a chance on losing family and the girl...or losing ME.
Well, for me...the choice was not a choice. It was a must do or die.
I wanted to share a bit of personal experience with you because...we don't really go through it do we? We have to keep fighting to be ourselves...no matter who we are.
Funny how i am learning by sharing. I hate sharing personal in public.
this link has 2 books. one i am familiar with and helped me understand a lot. i used it with family. even shared it with some to help them understand.
the Transforming Families is the book i used.
http://www.mental-health-today.com/g...s/fambooks.htm
Giving your mom a chance to try and absorb this information and the facts emotionally, on her own, may help. The reader is exposed to other trans peoples emotions etc. without it being personal. it helped both myself and the understanding of other peoples emotions. also, all the pressure was not put on me to explain myself away.
great advice from the other posts. Keep the Faith Man