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Apocalipstic · 06-07-2012, 04:20 PM

Part 1 of 5: Logistic availability

1) How often do you see your friends in person? Some friends several times a week, some every month or so, some once a year, some less. It really varies.

2) How often do you talk on the phone, email, skype, etc. a friend?
I text kisses and thinking of your's the most, email some, phone every now and then, have never skyped.

3) Is childcare a consideration, when you’re making plans with a friend?
I have no children per say.

4) Are finances a consideration? Yes, money is tight.

5) Is accessibility or health a consideration? I have some limitations yes. Allergies, asthma and some mobility issues. Depends on day.

6) Is your work or class schedule a consideration? Yes, I work full time Mon thru Fri and sometimes travel for work, sometimes on weekends.

7) Does last-minute planning figure into your friendships, either out of necessity or just because that’s the way you prefer it? I like impromptu fun stuff, having to make plans too set in stone in my free time stresses me out. I like to hang loose and play by ear.

Part 2 of 5: Boundaries, expectations and values

1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships? I have many Butch and Femme friends.

2) If your partner did’t like someone, would you still be friends with that person? I don't have a partner

3) Describe a time someone cut you off as a friend. I take breaks when I get stressed out.

4) Describe a time you cut someone off as a friend. Nothing dramatic, more drifting in and out.

5) How would you respond, if you realized a friend had a substance abuse problem? Depends on how they act around me. Not my business really. I can't be around hard drugs and don't enjoy out of control behavior. I will not be aorund it.

6) How would you respond, if your friend were in an abusive relationship? People usually know they are abused, and mentioning it to them has never worked out well...but I would anyway. I would help however I could if they nedded me.

7) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (partnered) friend, what would you do? Focus on how important the friendship is and keep it to myself.

8) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (single) friend, what would you do? Depends on the friend.

9) If your friend had what you considered an annoying, albeit harmless habit, would you tell her? No, and I would prefer if they not tell me about mine.

10) Describe a time that you “outgrew” a friend, if applicable. Again, people drift in and out for different reasons. Negativity and telling me what I should do make me back off.

11) How many years have you known your oldest friend? How have you managed to stay friends, over time? My closest old friend I have known for 20 years, but I have friends I have known for 40 years or more. Sometimes it's hard and we may hang out less, but it comes back around.

12) Do you have any friends who are exes? What’s your philosophy about that? Yes, I am very good friends with several of my exes. I have never been in a relationship with anyone I think is a bad person. We may not have worked out, but the friendship is still valuable.

13) How do you feel about “friends with benefits”? Yay

, but can be difficult to pull off.

14) How do your expectations of a friend differ from your expectations of a romantic partner? I expect way better behavior out of a romantic partner.

15) Describe a time when you really came through for a friend. Helped a friend return to the US who had moved to another country with a girl and things did not work out.

16) Describe a time a friend really came through for you. Giving me a place to live, no questions asked, when I needed it. Came and got me when things were bad.

17) What are a few deal breakers that would stop you being friends with someone? I take breaks from people who stress me out more than actually end friendships.

18) What are the kinds of characters flaws you can overlook in a friend? If my love is deep, most of them.

Part 3 of 5: How important is it to you that:

1) …your friend’s age is fairly close to yours? Not at all

2) …your friend’s educational level is similar to yours? Not at all

3) …your friend’s economic situation is similar to yours? Not at all, as long as they respect my situation

4) …your friend’s religious beliefs are similar to yours? Not at all, as long as they honor my beliefs

5) …your friend’s class background is similar to yours? Not at all

6) …your friend’s gender identity or sexual preference is similar to yours? Not at all

7) …your small or adult children like your friends? N/A

8) …your friends like to include your children, when you hang out together? N/A. I do however, enjoy most of my friends kids and love hanging out with them.

Part 4 of 5: Which of the following shared activities with a friend appeal to you?

1) Attending singles events and supporting each other as you scan the environment for someone to flirt with, etc. Single events scare me, they seem to imply I am looking to hook up. Too much pressure.

2) Exercising; outdoors or indoors. Would love someone to walk and or swim with.

3) Watching movies or videos; at home or in a theater LOVE film!

4) Playing video or electronic games; at home or somewhere else. I will play Rock Band and Farm Town. Lol. I will hang out if a friend enjoys playing, but I am horrible and dislike being goaded into actually playing. My nephew says "Aunt Jenny, you are really bad at video games"...

5) Attending sports events or watching sports on TV. I am not into sports, but it can be fun to go to live games to watch the crowds and cheerleaders. Football on TV puts me to sleep.

6) Participating in team sports. No. I am secret weapon for the other team. SO not athletic.

7) Attending cultural events (museums, concerts, readings, etc.) Yes please!

8) Shopping. Sometimes, depends on how they shop.

9) Cooking, or eating in restaurants. Yes please!

10) Visiting wildlife centers, going to a county fair, hanging out to watch the dog run in an urban area, bird watching—anything that involves animals. I don't like crowds that much and am allergic to horses, rabbits, hay...but I love dogs.

11) Other. I love to hang out at pool and hang out at home and talk and listen to music and just hang out lol

Part 5 of 5: What important things has this survey left out? Nothing, but I do want to add that I am a Southern Girl and prefer my friends keep their opinions to themselves or talk behind my back rather than giving me their opinions about my life unless I ask them. I can be elusive, hard to pin down and enjoy my time alone.

BONUS QUESTION: In your opinion, has the fact that this survey was created by a femme, affected it in any way?
No, I think your questions were pretty neutral.

06-07-2012, 04:20 PM	#3
Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	Gonna give it a shot! :) Part 1 of 5: Logistic availability 1) How often do you see your friends in person? Some friends several times a week, some every month or so, some once a year, some less. It really varies. 2) How often do you talk on the phone, email, skype, etc. a friend? I text kisses and thinking of your's the most, email some, phone every now and then, have never skyped. 3) Is childcare a consideration, when you’re making plans with a friend? I have no children per say. 4) Are finances a consideration? Yes, money is tight. 5) Is accessibility or health a consideration? I have some limitations yes. Allergies, asthma and some mobility issues. Depends on day. 6) Is your work or class schedule a consideration? Yes, I work full time Mon thru Fri and sometimes travel for work, sometimes on weekends. 7) Does last-minute planning figure into your friendships, either out of necessity or just because that’s the way you prefer it? I like impromptu fun stuff, having to make plans too set in stone in my free time stresses me out. I like to hang loose and play by ear. Part 2 of 5: Boundaries, expectations and values 1) What are your thoughts on butch/femme friendships? I have many Butch and Femme friends. 2) If your partner did’t like someone, would you still be friends with that person? I don't have a partner 3) Describe a time someone cut you off as a friend. I take breaks when I get stressed out. 4) Describe a time you cut someone off as a friend. Nothing dramatic, more drifting in and out. 5) How would you respond, if you realized a friend had a substance abuse problem? Depends on how they act around me. Not my business really. I can't be around hard drugs and don't enjoy out of control behavior. I will not be aorund it. 6) How would you respond, if your friend were in an abusive relationship? People usually know they are abused, and mentioning it to them has never worked out well...but I would anyway. I would help however I could if they nedded me. 7) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (partnered) friend, what would you do? Focus on how important the friendship is and keep it to myself. 8) If you began to have romantic feelings about your (single) friend, what would you do? Depends on the friend. 9) If your friend had what you considered an annoying, albeit harmless habit, would you tell her? No, and I would prefer if they not tell me about mine. 10) Describe a time that you “outgrew” a friend, if applicable. Again, people drift in and out for different reasons. Negativity and telling me what I should do make me back off. 11) How many years have you known your oldest friend? How have you managed to stay friends, over time? My closest old friend I have known for 20 years, but I have friends I have known for 40 years or more. Sometimes it's hard and we may hang out less, but it comes back around. 12) Do you have any friends who are exes? What’s your philosophy about that? Yes, I am very good friends with several of my exes. I have never been in a relationship with anyone I think is a bad person. We may not have worked out, but the friendship is still valuable. 13) How do you feel about “friends with benefits”? Yay , but can be difficult to pull off. 14) How do your expectations of a friend differ from your expectations of a romantic partner? I expect way better behavior out of a romantic partner. 15) Describe a time when you really came through for a friend. Helped a friend return to the US who had moved to another country with a girl and things did not work out. 16) Describe a time a friend really came through for you. Giving me a place to live, no questions asked, when I needed it. Came and got me when things were bad. 17) What are a few deal breakers that would stop you being friends with someone? I take breaks from people who stress me out more than actually end friendships. 18) What are the kinds of characters flaws you can overlook in a friend? If my love is deep, most of them. Part 3 of 5: How important is it to you that: 1) …your friend’s age is fairly close to yours? Not at all 2) …your friend’s educational level is similar to yours? Not at all 3) …your friend’s economic situation is similar to yours? Not at all, as long as they respect my situation 4) …your friend’s religious beliefs are similar to yours? Not at all, as long as they honor my beliefs 5) …your friend’s class background is similar to yours? Not at all 6) …your friend’s gender identity or sexual preference is similar to yours? Not at all 7) …your small or adult children like your friends? N/A 8) …your friends like to include your children, when you hang out together? N/A. I do however, enjoy most of my friends kids and love hanging out with them. Part 4 of 5: Which of the following shared activities with a friend appeal to you? 1) Attending singles events and supporting each other as you scan the environment for someone to flirt with, etc. Single events scare me, they seem to imply I am looking to hook up. Too much pressure. 2) Exercising; outdoors or indoors. Would love someone to walk and or swim with. 3) Watching movies or videos; at home or in a theater LOVE film! 4) Playing video or electronic games; at home or somewhere else. I will play Rock Band and Farm Town. Lol. I will hang out if a friend enjoys playing, but I am horrible and dislike being goaded into actually playing. My nephew says "Aunt Jenny, you are really bad at video games"... 5) Attending sports events or watching sports on TV. I am not into sports, but it can be fun to go to live games to watch the crowds and cheerleaders. Football on TV puts me to sleep. 6) Participating in team sports. No. I am secret weapon for the other team. SO not athletic. 7) Attending cultural events (museums, concerts, readings, etc.) Yes please! 8) Shopping. Sometimes, depends on how they shop. 9) Cooking, or eating in restaurants. Yes please! 10) Visiting wildlife centers, going to a county fair, hanging out to watch the dog run in an urban area, bird watching—anything that involves animals. I don't like crowds that much and am allergic to horses, rabbits, hay...but I love dogs. 11) Other. I love to hang out at pool and hang out at home and talk and listen to music and just hang out lol Part 5 of 5: What important things has this survey left out? Nothing, but I do want to add that I am a Southern Girl and prefer my friends keep their opinions to themselves or talk behind my back rather than giving me their opinions about my life unless I ask them. I can be elusive, hard to pin down and enjoy my time alone. BONUS QUESTION: In your opinion, has the fact that this survey was created by a femme, affected it in any way? No, I think your questions were pretty neutral. __________________ Last edited by Apocalipstic; 06-07-2012 at 04:30 PM.