[Julien]

Originally Posted by IslandScout

First of all, as you’ve undoubtedly noticed, the Planet provides a number of nice big shiny tools to assist you in your flirting.

There is absolutely nothing wrong, for example, with simply posting a lovely landscape shot on a Femme’s message wall, with no note attached—sort of like dropping a basket of puppies on her doorstep, ringing the bell and running.

If you're feeling a little more brave (and it is my impression that you, Little Fish, often feel a little more brave!), you can use your words—we have planted plenty of conversation starters in our profiles and our posts are quite endowed, if I may say so, with various degrees of winks, smiles, and harmless challenges.

As is often the case, you can also post photos of your car, boat, motorcycle, equipment of various types, dog in all his various poses and settings—all of which we regard with bemused fascination, and not a little patience.

When you finally do post a photo of yourself—each more serious and forbidding than the next—you actually endear yourself to us the most, because we know that quite often, the toughness you project is in direct proportion to the little bear in need of a cuddle you really are, beneath that stern task master facade you seem determined to project.

I guess what I'm saying—and I hope you are taking notes—is that you are at your most effective level of flirting, when you have no clue you are doing so.

I never thought that I would want to take notes in class again, but this is a something I want to know all the nuances. Just a question, why do you think that most of us "project" a sense of toughness and a "stern task master facade"? I see myself as rather reserved on the outside and kink underneath it all. Well at least that's what I've been told and I do identify with that assessment.