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Bear2you · 06-20-2012, 10:49 PM

I am excited to find this thread. I will admit I have not read all the previous posts, but I will be after I am done here.

I believe my 3 and a half year old daughter has a gift. Which one? I am unsure of. So here is what has been going on as of late.

First let me give you a lil background.

My father passed away December of 2005. I married my wife in Nov of 2006. In 2008 My wife got pregnant via IVF and delivered twin baby girls.
My wifes pregnancy was a lil rough. We were actually pregnant with triplets! At 11 weeks that 3rd heartbeat stopped beating and growing. Baby C miscarried. It was too early for us to know what gender it was.

Fast forward.
My daughter Z is, well I am not sure how to word this without sounding bad. She is driving me nuts and making my wife, and myself overwhelmed with emotions. Z started talking about my dad. Her Grandpa! Though she has never met my dad, she knows about him and his picture. My wifes father is PaPa, so it is clear who she is speaking of.
A few months ago my sweet little girl changed! She started being a lil onery stinker! She is telling us Grandpa plays with her with her toys in her room. Grandpa tells her this and that. Some of the things she says and does(which she has never done before) is totally things my dad would do! Another note about my dad.. my dad LOVED kids. He also loved to teach lil kids how to get in trouble(playfully) One of his favorite things to do, and I know this sounds bad, is to get lil ones to say "shit". He just thought it was hilarious! An example, We been trying to get our girls to sleep in their beds all night! Around 3 am we wake up and they are both in our bed. They started asking to sleep in out bed and we tell them no. Z says and insists that she is going to sleep in our bed "because grandpa said she could". There are so many other things that she says about him. Talking about his garden. My dad had a garden every year. I truly believe he is here teaching her to be naughty. Thanks dad!
So here is what is really getting to us. Z started talking about her baby brother. That her baby brother lives with Grandpa. She talks about them both all the time. My wife took losing "baby C" pretty hard. She said she always felt like it was a baby boy. So when Z gets talking about her baby brother, the wifes emotions get the best of her. Sometimes me too.
I try to ask her questions about my dad. What he says to her, does he say anything about me? She is only 3, what am I doing? I am so wanting, well I dont know what I want. Maybe it is closure. My relationship with my dad was rough. It was better in the end but I still have all the "why" questions and I am finding myself trying to get them through my 3 year old.

So now that I a re reading my post I see that my thoughts are all over the place. No real point. I guess I am just showing I am a believer (now more then ever) and this is why. How does one learn to reconize their gift? Are there others that can teach you or help you reconize or utilize it?
This is all for now. I hope this thread becomes more active. ~bear~

06-20-2012, 10:49 PM	#393
Bear2you Junior Member How Do You Identify?: butch Relationship Status: unavailable Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: South Carolina Posts: 10 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 47 Times in 7 Posts Rep Power: 214762	Kids... I am excited to find this thread. I will admit I have not read all the previous posts, but I will be after I am done here. I believe my 3 and a half year old daughter has a gift. Which one? I am unsure of. So here is what has been going on as of late. First let me give you a lil background. My father passed away December of 2005. I married my wife in Nov of 2006. In 2008 My wife got pregnant via IVF and delivered twin baby girls. My wifes pregnancy was a lil rough. We were actually pregnant with triplets! At 11 weeks that 3rd heartbeat stopped beating and growing. Baby C miscarried. It was too early for us to know what gender it was. Fast forward. My daughter Z is, well I am not sure how to word this without sounding bad. She is driving me nuts and making my wife, and myself overwhelmed with emotions. Z started talking about my dad. Her Grandpa! Though she has never met my dad, she knows about him and his picture. My wifes father is PaPa, so it is clear who she is speaking of. A few months ago my sweet little girl changed! She started being a lil onery stinker! She is telling us Grandpa plays with her with her toys in her room. Grandpa tells her this and that. Some of the things she says and does(which she has never done before) is totally things my dad would do! Another note about my dad.. my dad LOVED kids. He also loved to teach lil kids how to get in trouble(playfully) One of his favorite things to do, and I know this sounds bad, is to get lil ones to say "shit". He just thought it was hilarious! An example, We been trying to get our girls to sleep in their beds all night! Around 3 am we wake up and they are both in our bed. They started asking to sleep in out bed and we tell them no. Z says and insists that she is going to sleep in our bed "because grandpa said she could". There are so many other things that she says about him. Talking about his garden. My dad had a garden every year. I truly believe he is here teaching her to be naughty. Thanks dad! So here is what is really getting to us. Z started talking about her baby brother. That her baby brother lives with Grandpa. She talks about them both all the time. My wife took losing "baby C" pretty hard. She said she always felt like it was a baby boy. So when Z gets talking about her baby brother, the wifes emotions get the best of her. Sometimes me too. I try to ask her questions about my dad. What he says to her, does he say anything about me? She is only 3, what am I doing? I am so wanting, well I dont know what I want. Maybe it is closure. My relationship with my dad was rough. It was better in the end but I still have all the "why" questions and I am finding myself trying to get them through my 3 year old. So now that I a re reading my post I see that my thoughts are all over the place. No real point. I guess I am just showing I am a believer (now more then ever) and this is why. How does one learn to reconize their gift? Are there others that can teach you or help you reconize or utilize it? This is all for now. I hope this thread becomes more active. ~bear~