Have you thought about doing a checklist to bring up the conversation? I know it sounds administrative but it can be helpful. You can find some online or make your own, and on the checklist have different activities you might want to try, and you each circle yes/no/maybe. Another couple I know did this... they each had to come up with 10 new things they wanted to try in the bedroom. They typed/wrote out the things on pieces of paper, folded them up, and then each night they were going to be intimate/have sex, they picked a different thing out of the bowl. Each partner had veto power if the item picked was totally out of one's personal interest.
Or, you could buy each other some erotica books, or read some stories online, and then go over what you liked in certain stories...
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