[Lusciousblondefemme]

Ok so .. I am the mother of two wonderful children Krystal is 15 and Kevin is 13. They truly are amazing children who have wonderful hearts and souls. But it has been a long journey to be able to sit back and say,"Hey, I did a damn good job", i raised my children basically by myself. My ex husband was there but not a hands on parent. He was alittle too concerned with his own life to realize that he should be part of their lives. That has changed some but still I feel like I did it all and he got just the easy parts.

So the discussion at hand .. I definately think that schools need to be brought up to date on the lessons and classes that they teach. I think that they need a class in tolerance, maybe anger management. I think that schools should prepare children for LIFE. I look at my daughter when she comes home from school and is taking a computer class that honestly she knows more about computers than the teacher does. Why not instead of teaching computers to children who have been using them for years teach something that will help them in life.
Another thing is that I believe that teachers should be tested as well as kids. When i was a preschool teacher I always made everything I learned fun. Why can't they make school fun, i find that if you can actually get a child interested in what they are learning, maybe by making your lesson plan fun, that children retain the information alot better.

Ok i have a good question, Why is saying that someone is Gay or Lesbian considered using vulgar language in schools? I will never forget when my daughter was in middle school I got a call at work telling me that my daughter was in the principals office. Well when i talked to Krystal she explained that there was a fight between two of her freinds and Krystal said hey why dont you kiss and make up. I always say that to my kids.. it makes them laugh and they forget the reason they are mad. So Krystal thought it was funny to say it. Well she got pulled down to the principals office for accusing two girls of being gay. I was appalled when she told me this. I asked her to give the phone to the principal and I asked the principal what was going on. She told me " Krystal has accused two girls of being gay and that is just not right and against school policies, for her to even discuss such a subject is not right." I said, " Well if you knew fucking anything you would know that I AM A LESBIAN, and my daughter would never accuse anyone of being a LESBIAN or being GAY because she knows better than to judge people." I went on to say that if they would have asked her what happened she would have told them the story. If they asked her why she said what she said they would have had an explanation instead of accusing her of being rude and cruel. I went on to say that As a LESBIAN, I find it very insulting that they are saying basically that if she talks about me that it's against their school policies. This principal didn't know what to say to me. I heard her tell Krystal to go back to class and that she was sorry. She than stated Have a nice day Ms. M****.
My thing is why is it wrong for children to talk about gay and lesbian issues, why is it ok for another child to call another child a faggot, but god forbid my children discuss the fact that I am a lesbian it violates their code of conduct at their school?

When is society going to start realizing that we are here, we are queer and WE ARE NOT going anywhere. That children they are teaching can come from gay families. They should be teaching tolerance in schools towards all people. Hazing should extend to sexuality.

I am the token lesbian at my daughters school because I am out. All her friends know that I am and she is very proud of me. She tells everyone that she talks to that I am gay and that if they don't like tough shit.

Kevin is still kinda quiet so he hasn't gotten to that stage yet. But i can imagine when he starts talking about me that his friends of course will find it fascinating. LOL.

So now the next hurdle that I shall be getting into with Krystal is she gets her permit in December. GOD help me please.!

I am sure that until December that we will have a few more obstacles to overcome but i look forward to them.

I find that as a parent the best approach is to be open and honest with your children. Krystal and Kevin know that they can come to me with anyone. They know that there is nothing that they will say that will shock me and/or make me upset with them. We talk about sex, sexuality, and drugs on a daily basis. I make sure that they know that no matter what I love them unconditionally, but that I hope that they make wise decisions in life, not for me but for themselves.

On a funny note.: Ok so Krystal, Kevin and I were in the grocery store. We are standing in the frozen food aisle and Krystal turns to me and goes ,"Mom what is Masturbation?" I very calmly said " This is not something we should discuss in the store, I will tell you when we get to the car." just as I finished telling her that I saw some guy looking in astonishment at me and run away. I was laughing my ass off. Kids definately do say the Darndest things