Dear Charming Butch,
Here's what I am hearing people saying in different ways:
Do this, get that (be negative, get negative).
Love yourself, the rest will follow.
Everyone is screwed up in some way or at some time; don't be so hard on yourself.
And then there was the unique and I thought, really innovative outside-the-box opinion that you could find someone of equal fucked-up-ness and support each other in getting over your issues and having a good relationship (if I understood you correctly Diva
. I like the liberating, don't-be-ashamed-of-where-you're-at-in-your-life undercurrent in that one.
It all seems so useful.
But I know you will pick and choose which things resonate most for you, which speak to who you really are and which speak to what you're ready for.
I really feel like you're on a good path.
Scout