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violaine · 03-10-2010, 10:49 AM

there's so much i could write about how communication could go smoother between NT's/AT's, from my own ideas/observations- but if one party is unwilling to see there will be differences [both ways !]- in use of phraseologies/tone/timing/pacing of conversation/body language, what difference does it make ?

immediate judgments, & accusations- could possibly be avoided, and the issue[s] survivable if there's room for lots of patience, a willingness to go there and stay the course, and support-

a space made for the person talking at the time to be fully heard, and respected for their feelings/thoughts -without immediately mowing the person down by connecting the words of the speaker to previous experiences, expectations, learned from wherever/whomever-

but that's hard work. how does one unlearn decades of learning/being conditioned - or living sort of on your own island with AT wiring ?

AT's can get stuck in a mode of thinking they are right just as easily as NT's; AT's could think of an NT in unfavourable light, as quickly as an NT could do the same-

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