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Originally Posted by violaine
there's so much i could write about how communication could go smoother between NT's/AT's, from my own ideas/observations- but if one party is unwilling to see there will be differences [both ways !]- in use of phraseologies/tone/timing/pacing of conversation/body language, what difference does it make ?
immediate judgments, & accusations- could possibly be avoided, and the issue[s] survivable if there's room for lots of patience, a willingness to go there and stay the course, and support-
a space made for the person talking at the time to be fully heard, and respected for their feelings/thoughts -without immediately mowing the person down by connecting the words of the speaker to previous experiences, expectations, learned from wherever/whomever-
but that's hard work.
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It is hard work. Very hard work.
I know in my case almost all of my socialization behaviors did not come naturally. I learned them from experience and observation. I am learning to be flexible with what I think I know, or have learned. But it is indeed hard work (exhausting).
Expectations. The Dalai Lama says that to have true happyness we must give up expectations and how true this is.
I do still want to be understood though. I keep hoping.