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Old 09-06-2012, 10:14 AM   #32
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Originally Posted by GrahamsGirl View Post
I posted this question in another thread, but I guess it wasn't to correct one. I am asking so I can understand, so please do not feel as if I am judging or anything else. Thanks for helping me to understand.

How does a transguy pass as a transguy and not a straight guy? (Sorry if that is worded wrong.) I really want to get a visual/understanding on this. Thanks. GG


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Confusing question, I wonder if you could explain it differently.

Since you are talking passing, I will assume that you mean in all walks of life.
I don’t think when guys transition they think, I will be a trans-guy or I will be str8*. I think they just want to be seen as who they are by the rest of the world. They know who they are inside.

I think it takes years and years of figuring out just where we fit in. Sometimes like others have said our ids change. We find a place that feels right for us. Some choose to carry on with the trans status, some say st8*, some just a guy trying to get through this life.

Some of it has to do with where you live. Live in BF Egypt and one will most likely say st8* but if they are passing they most likely don’t have to say anything. No one ask them. They just want to be safe and enjoy life.

If they live in SF or someplace where there are many trans-guys and for the most part it’s safe to just be, they may take on just saying trans.

I pass, and have for many years, at one point I would say st8* if one had asked me. I don’t think I was asked unless I was in an LGBT environment.

Now that I am in that type of environment every day, it’s just assumed that I am some str8 guy working at the LGBT Center, or I am gay. So some days to make a little clarification I say no I am a trans-guy. Usually you don’t have to say a gay trans-guy, or a st8* trans-guy. Just trans-guy is enough. Even though there is a huge difference.

I think most of us, just want to be ourselves without all the labeling. We just use the labeling as a way to walk thur life.

good to see you and Graham around

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