Dance-with-me, a romantic room, candles (lottsa battery operated tea lights are nice too) and you in whatever would be wonderful, because, you will have that self-confidence that you are worth every second of the mystique.
"Sexy is as sexy does" What makes a femme sexy, to me, is the way she carries herself. It's easy to spot and it is pretty awesome from across the room.
I have been with , Hmm, Anorexic to ample, youngish and mature (not all at the same time your honor 
. all of the above, in and out of corsets, garter belts, ....thigh high lacey nylons ~ All are a killer for me....and it is in our heads where the passion and acceptance live. 
Yes. I agree , just do it if it feels good. If it doesn't , you can chalk it up to , getting out of the closet. 