I never used any kind of "label" until I started coming online many years ago and finding community chat rooms and sites. I've never been one to try to fit in anywhere...either you like me and want to be friends...or you don't.
I have and will always be...Gen. I use "butch" as my label not for myself but for others trying to figure out "what" I am. And since I don't have a feminine bone in my body...this seemed to fit.
Those who really want to know ME can always engage in a conversation and simply just ask what they want to know.
I do open doors, pull out chairs, remove my hat, kiss hands..etc. I don't know if those are traits of a label...just who I am. I also cook, clean, do laundry, iron...etc. Does that make me not "butch"? I don't think so. I am also a caregiver, protector, a great "cheerleader" for those who are important to me as they face and conquer their life challenges. I will offer you a comforting embrace, a shoulder to lean or cry on, a willing ear to listen to all that troubles you when you need me, and hold you watching you sleep and do my best to keep the bad dreams away that are plaguing you.
Also, I don't NEED to be the dominant person in the relationship. I enjoy femmes with their own minds, intelligent, their own person inside and out. She will always know that I will be there for HER anytime and in any way she needs or wants.
All this...and more of WHO I am...labels me as....ME
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