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Originally Posted by honeybarbara
. SNIPPING AGAIN!
Codes are for things like bikers clubs or boy scouts or freemasons. Not a gender group that I have nothing in common with save for the same gender presentation. I thought third wave feminism proved that not all women have the same experiences? That can be extended to any gender representation.
Sorry, no code for me. respect as individuals and an expectation for them to take care of themselves.
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just gotta come back and highlight another part of this freaking AWESOME post! serious. i'm OVER the "code" mentality.
i'm also over the "waiting code".. that's the one that says a person has to wait a mysteriously determined amount of time before dating after a break up.
the "waiting code" says: if you dont wait long enough you're a whore and if you wait too long you've become maudlin.
BULL
if you choose not to wait very long that doesnt mean you're not aching over your break up. it means that you're human and want connection with other humans. conversely, being alone or waiting doesnt mean you're depressed. it might just mean that you're happy on your own!
everyone's code should be self-determined.