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Originally Posted by gaea
I have been reading the last few pages wow how one topic can pose so many different questions....So I have one of my own now this is theoretical and or hypothetical so keep that in mind and I will use letters to represent person's...
Persons A & B are in a relationship that lasts less than 1 year and they break up.
Person A begins dating several people up to an including sex etc.
Person B is seen at a party flirting with Person C who does not know person A at all
so here is my question
Does person C owe "femme" code to person A because they happen to be at the same party? if so why?
No one owes anyone anything, if exes are running into one another at parties I am going to assume that the people inviting them to parties are pretty comfortable these folks are going to be grown ass adults and keep their motions in check if there is going to be some kind of issue, IF anyone feel uncomfortable watching what their ex is doing with the alphabet then said person best stay home and not drag everyone in their spiral of doom
Does person A at any time owe anything to person B?
If A & B are knowingly going to the same party once again I am going to assume we are dealing with ADULTS, then there is going to be a mutual understanding that they are going to be grown folks acting like grown folks at someone else's event, therefore I would expect for all letters and vowels to behave in a civilized non House wive's of New Jersey manner
Considering Person A is dating/flirting/ having sexual relations with another and or many others.
Who owes what to whom in this scenario and why?
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I don't think people are expecting something or that anyone is feeling like they need to owe anyone anything.
In Anya's scenario, her friend was hurt, I am unsure why other that perhaps her mourning period (some people need time after a break up) wasn't over, or perhaps she has unresolved feelings and needs to work them out. Anya's friends ex showed up at social function, Anya's friend has a momentary loss of her emotions and feels crushed because of many factors that we aren't privy to.
It's not that hard to get why and how the conversation evolved to where it's at right now, we start to talk things out and think them throughly and think of all scenenarios possible.
I don't owe any form of loyalty to anyone, but when I am in a relationship with my close friends or chosen family members I do have the expectation that they be honest and considerate like I am with them I have this expectation because that is how I am in my friendships I give back what I receive.
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I am sure we've all had this happen one time or another.
It could be from your not so close friend hooks up with a person you fucked 6 months ago, your not so close friend decided to share intimate details of her life with said person she is seeing,
You can either tell person you are not so close that you fucked said person she is seeing, or not.
It all depends on the individual I suppose, people have pasts, it's when things get shady or you enter relationships with only peeks at the truth and such that things get sketchy for folks.
I am unsure if anyone is going to have the correct answer gaea, everyone of us has a different set of ethics, values, system, code, ideals, etc etc so the answers are going to be radically different.