[Kobi]

Originally Posted by Duchess

In my opinion, the only thing that's dying are all of the rules that were used to define a Butch's life.

• You have to be a top
• You have to be with a Femme
• You have to be head of household
• You can't bear children
• Etc.,etc.......

Makes me tired just thinking about it. Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting there's something wrong with the ideas I've listed nor am I suggesting that all Butches have felt the pressure to uphold a certain idea of what it means to be Butch. However, I have witnessed the torment in friends and a partner.

Cheers to living the life that truly makes you happy!!!

Duchess

Thank you for saying this.

Sometimes it feels we are a dying breed when, in reality, we are just morphing into ourselves, not adhering to preconceived notions or expectations, and doing experimenting of our own.

Defining oneself rather than being defined is very liberating and satisfying. Albeit, a bit confusing to some.