[DMW]

Originally Posted by Darbonaire

Thanks for this space. I also am available to chat & or call....so msg me & we can go from there.

At 57 & having started this 12 years ago as far as the T & such..I can say I still miss having "guys like us" to talk to. I have some bio-male friends but I'm not "out" to them. I'm just recently divorced after a 10 year legal marriage to a wonderful woman. She was there for me through the changes & now...she's gone from me.....but, let's not go there.
Sorry about that.

Anyway, I have never been "out" as it were. Old lifetime friends of course knew & have all accepted me....but, I never was really open with other folks. Especially not to new friends etc. I have come back to VA to heal from the divorce, & have found myself among a group of people that I AM safe with. No, I won't reveal to all of them cause it's not important...but, to some of them I have, & they have warmly welcomed me. That is SO GD refreshing.
Glad that you have people there and feel safe with them...i got a few here too... Thank God.

Now here's something I haven't encountered before though. One of my friends <God love her> is trying to fix me up with one of her gf's. She is straight as is her friend. the one trying to fix me up does NOT know the deal....so, I simply told her I'm not ready to date yet....which I'm not.

Have any of you ever had this happen? I would love to go out & date but wow....when it comes time..<if it does> to take it further...YIKES !

I have had it happen. You know, i think if you are serious about someone, the sooner you tell them...the better for the both of you. You don't want to lead her on without knowing that you are not biomale. It gives her a chance to deal with her feelings about it. I mean, if you start out as friends and you know it could go further...i would tell. Something to play by ear. It is definately different being and FTM that passes as biomale because women see us as biomales...and so do we really...to an extent. Just gotta keep that in mind...that she would presume(most likely) we are biomale because we look it.


Jonathan

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