[Chancie]

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

I've been thinking about this a lot, I was wondering. How do we (Femmes) stop, handle, fight against the June Cleaver comparison? How do we stop it from happening within our own community?

(What I mean by this, when someone references the "Cleaver" way being the right way, the superior way)

How does that affect you internally as a Femme?

Does it hurt your feelings? Do you get defensive?

Curious.

(I am not talking about those who choose the dynamics and enjoy being caregivers, caretakers, stay at home wives etc)

Because I do like to take care of and fuss over Pete, and because I like to be the girl who bought the best present for a little girl, and because I like to bring the best treats to pot lucks, not because I am a femme, but because I am ChanciePants, I feel silenced and alienated when other femmes say they aspire to being, not modern but old fashioned June Cleavers. I think, Oh, very nice if you're pretty, thin, middle class and white, and not a feminist. I feel like they aggressively choose to dismiss feminism and women's rights.