[Sun]

Originally Posted by ElijahRene

Thanks Sun, dee...even talking about it here takes the edge off the stress over it. I appreciate the support. I guess I have to quit bringing ice cream into the house...*sigh

I have had some big life changes...I changed jobs in this unsure economy only to find out the companies ethics are very shaky and also became recently single. My lack of money forced Me to buy cheaper, more processed foods and once that gate opened...it's been downhill from there. I am making more money now and feeling guilty about it. So the guilt combined with the loneliness are a bad combination for Me health wise.

I won't give up though, that's not My M.O.

Thanks again,

Elijah

Elijah,

I am sure that many of us can relate to all or some of what you are saying. Habits are hard to break. Do not be so hard on yourself, please. You are human and as humans we have a strong emotional attachment to food. I share with you the feelings of seeking comfort in food, especially when I am lonely which is often these days. For me, a life changing event such as going from sharing meals with a partner or family, to eating alone can be an emotional shock to my system and further drive me into seeking comfort in food or skipping meals because eating alone is sometimes emotionally painful.
There are times when I am aware that I am just eating to survive and not really enjoying the food at all. This is what I call functional eating.

There are things that I miss about sharing meals with my ex partner who is someone who loved food too. We were always on a food adventure. That was a fun and vital part of our dynamic. Then there is the Daddy energy in me that naturally seeks out someone to feed or care for. So double whammy on that one! Coming home to no one to feed or care for and not having anyone to share a meal with just plain sucks. However, I shift this perspective in my mind and focus on something positive, remember to count my blessings and prepare myself for my future. This is all a cycle. This too shall pass.

The work now for me is to stay in a healthy place with food and support systems like this thread are helping me a lot.

Just a note on the ice cream. There are worse things that you could be eating. Ice cream is not so bad. My suggestion would be to limit your portion sizes as opposed to depriving yourself. The trick that works for me is to have protein before I have ice cream and then I am not spiking my blood sugar. Another tip is to make sure that you move your body after a meal or high caloric snack.

You can do this. One day at a time. You will get there.