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			Forgiveness for me is something I do for myself.   
 
It's acknowledging that something shitty happened, that it was wrong, and then getting to a point of letting go of the anger and hurt. 
 
When I was dealing with some things that had to be forgiven, I got alone out in a park somewhere and wrote a huge letter, nothing held back.  I stayed out there all day.  Then I tore it up and literally let it all go into the trashbin.   
 
That doesn't mean that I forget, or that I allow myself to just be abused and forgive them anyway.  I got to a point where I had to let go for my own inner health, but be smart enough and love myself enough not to allow them to do that to me again.
		 
		
		
		
		
		
		
			
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