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nina03 · 03-02-2013, 10:27 PM

I haven't really seen anyone address this subject from a poly point of view, yet. Most responses that I've seen have addressed what folks do when moving from one monogamous relationship to another one. I am poly, and while that usually means I am in a "relationship" with people that I am sexually involved with, it doesn't always. So sometimes I have sex with someone that is not one of my regular sex partners. I am femme, but I am a femme who packs sometimes. I am not going to go buy a new cock every time I want to fuck someone. I don't have that kind of money. I do, however, have a very nice silicone cock, that can be boiled to sterilize it, along with a machine washable harness. I use condoms on my cock, and gloves and dental dams for other kinds of sex, no exceptions. When I am letting someone fuck me, I have a conversation about whether or not they sterilize their cock, and I use condoms for additional protection. For bdsm related toys, when I'm playing with other people, I tend to like toys that are easy to clean. I use a lot of rubber, which hurts like hell to hit with, and can be cleaned very thoroughly. Now all of this is different from what I do with my primary partner. Max and I have a range of toys that are just for us. Not all of the cocks are silicone, a lot of the bdsm stuff is leather. We have a policy that we practice safer sex with other people, but not with each other. We also get tested once a year (or more often if we feel like we need to.) This system has worked well for us so far, and neither of us has any STIs.

03-02-2013, 10:27 PM	#50
nina03 Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme Preferred Pronoun?: she/her, or they/them Relationship Status: Very married and in love Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Renton, WA Posts: 333 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 242 Thanked 1,001 Times in 262 Posts Rep Power: 8811370	Thoughts from a poly perspective I haven't really seen anyone address this subject from a poly point of view, yet. Most responses that I've seen have addressed what folks do when moving from one monogamous relationship to another one. I am poly, and while that usually means I am in a "relationship" with people that I am sexually involved with, it doesn't always. So sometimes I have sex with someone that is not one of my regular sex partners. I am femme, but I am a femme who packs sometimes. I am not going to go buy a new cock every time I want to fuck someone. I don't have that kind of money. I do, however, have a very nice silicone cock, that can be boiled to sterilize it, along with a machine washable harness. I use condoms on my cock, and gloves and dental dams for other kinds of sex, no exceptions. When I am letting someone fuck me, I have a conversation about whether or not they sterilize their cock, and I use condoms for additional protection. For bdsm related toys, when I'm playing with other people, I tend to like toys that are easy to clean. I use a lot of rubber, which hurts like hell to hit with, and can be cleaned very thoroughly. Now all of this is different from what I do with my primary partner. Max and I have a range of toys that are just for us. Not all of the cocks are silicone, a lot of the bdsm stuff is leather. We have a policy that we practice safer sex with other people, but not with each other. We also get tested once a year (or more often if we feel like we need to.) This system has worked well for us so far, and neither of us has any STIs.