Sylvie, my dad was a functioning alcoholic as many police officers are. My oldest brother is an alcoholic and I did the tough love with him (we no longer speak). It runs in my family. When I was in my 20's I had a lot of misplaced anger, so a friend turned me on to ACOA(adult children of alcoholics) meetings. Believe it or not, they helped me deal with my family better back then. Sometimes it's easier to be with others in a group like that every week than try to do it on your own.
I'll keep you and your dad in my prayers.
I understand what you're going through. If your dad won't get help for himself, you should at least get help for you, so you can cope better.
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Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength; loving someone deeply gives you courage --- Lao Tzo
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