[kittygrrl]

I've found less is more..less expectation/judging means in the long run more contentment..if you need a lot in a relationship, it's realistic to expect you're going to have to deal with a degree of disappointment..less money, the more money we make the busier we tend to be and tempted or have to devote a lot of time outside of your relationship..I think you have to be on relatively the same page when it comes to finances..but if you can both downsize you are paid back with time to spend however you both decide pursuing happiness, less worrying about your happiness, more about your partner..if you have the right one, this is almost brilliantly selfish for no doubt they will catch on and try to outdo you..less problem, more solution..be the person he/hi/she loves to hang around, be fun & every once in a while plan a surprise..or be the surprise..