[Kenna]

ohhhh Blade,
I can't THANK YOU enough for your support, encouragement, and positive advice!! I love how strong and assertive your post comes over as. Thank ya darlin'!!!

I do have trouble saying no to neighbors in need or family/friends. And I told my landlady that I didn't want anyone seeing me as a nasty neighbor. (My landlady was pissed that she ignored my Do Not Disturb sign.) But after you so kindly shared your support, I think I will do as I did with my son... "it's Tough Love for you buddy!"

Your support is VERY appreciated!! I've been told I am too hard on myself and this issue was nagging at me.

***hands Blade a blueberry smoothie***

Originally Posted by Blade

One of the hardest things I've learned is to say no. I don't have to have an excuse. If I'm busy or have company or for whatever reason don't want to do something,I just say no. Sometimes that is hard for me because usually it is someone I care about wanting me to do some piddly something, that doesn't have to be done right now. Like Mom, suddenly all of her needs are immediate she can't wait for anything. But then she's my Ma, I don't make her wait much.

Yes you are being taken advantage of and obviously she knows exactly how to push your buttons and does well at it. Don't let her get to you. Just from now on say no, no explanation necessary. Now you might ask if she'd like to go to the store with you when you go. Then she has no reason to ask you to take her later. Personally with all that running her around, if she asks again, ask her for her SSI # and if you can claim her on ya taxes next year. Ya not her Mom, ya don't owe her nothing.