Gender labels begin now before we are born, since parents usually know what we seem to be. We either have a vagina or a penis so this makes us a girl or boy. I am not certain this is true. Over the last several years I examined many articles and how my own life has played out. I discovered for me gender is what I think, not what the body appears to be. I am in a female body. Does this make me fit into the role society has elected (without my vote) I should follow. I think not. I would say most of us here, oh all of us here, do not really fit this idea of assigned gender roles.
When I was young I was required to wear a dress to school. I hated it from as early as I can remember. Oh but I have a vagina and should love that little pink frock with tea roses and the white pinafore, this could not be further from the truth.
Today I identify most closely with the term Third Gender Queer I am mentally neither of societies idea of gender. I am happy as I am and have no desire to alter myself.
We move onto the next label which is orientation. Yikes, so much to consider. Do I like guys, well not straight guys (there is a bad history). Do I like girls/woman yes! I feel sexually and romantically attracted to them. I am speaking exclusively here. Does this make me a lesbian, only if, we accept the vagina and penis indicator of gender. We left this theory by the side of the road so if not a lesbian what am I?
We are talking labels here. I am gynesexual/gyneromantic as I am exclusively drawn to women. I am drawn more to the relationship then the sex. Oh the sex is great, but I need that relationship building first and really need to feel love.
Okay I am getting there.
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A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual.
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http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index...tle=Demisexual
This quote is stated very well and describes me very well. So let's look at the label and see what it turns out to be.
Third Gender Queer Gynesexual/romantic Demisexual, oh, to this we should add Polyamorous. "My good gosh does this one ever stop."
If you mash this mouthful of words together you know who I am.
The list of genders and orientations grows daily. We can expect more and more as the years pass until our label could be so long we would not want to have to write it out.
So for the sake of simplicity and the fact labels really do not tell the story, the people do. Queer, dyke, butch, lesbian all work for me. I am me as are we all and this is what makes us who we are. We live the mental gender and orientation we think and feel. Hugs loves