[s0litude]

Interestly enough, I have told people before that I am very shy, and they laugh. The truth is that I have to force myself to be outgoing and sociable. I'm generally not comfortable with it and prefer to be alone [thus, my name] or in the company of a few, trusted friends-- and I trust very few.

INFJ - The Counselor

Your type is best summed up by the word "counselor", which belongs to the larger group of idealists. Only 2% of the population share your type. Amusing! But growing up, friends did jokingly call me the "Dear Abby" of the group because it wasn't uncommon for me to go talk to a friend on the verge of a breakdown at 3am. I'm much better at sorting others' issues than my own. I'm also blunt, so expect me to tell you to get your head out of your ass when needed. If you want cute and fluffy lies, bunnies and flowers and the world's a wonderful place where you can do or be anything you want,... well, that's not often me.

You are so empathic that you often know what others need before they know themselves. I'm told this quite frequently actually. I've called a friend up and asked outright, even before "Hey"... "What's up because something is up-- I can feel it" and been right on. I did this to my ex-wife when she was in New England at her grandmother's funeral and I was in Texas. She cried, laughed, and joked that I'm a "creepy, creepy lil man" because of this... skill? I'll often text friends and have them reply, "Hey! I was just thinking about you."

You are a complex person who can deal with complicated issues and people, almost prefer to, as you love problem solving. This is accurate. I'm often the "Go To" guy amongst close friends and colleagues. I'm not unsympathetic; I'd say I am very sympathetic. But come to me for answers before sympathy because that's the way my brain functions best, mkay?

You can be something of an idealist or perfectionist, and should try to take yourself a little less seriously. Yes, I am a perfectionist. I even edited the capitalization and such for the results. I'm a goofball, but I take most things to heart. I do need to relax more and let things be as they may. I analyze everything.

You are a supportive and insightful romantic partner, encouraging your mate to have dreams and work hard to make those dreams come true. Because you are so creative, you have a wealth of ideas to help them toward those goals. And I'll bend over backwards, work tirelessly, to help her accomplish those dreams and goals.

You need harmony so much that you are driven to resolve conflict quickly, as long as the terms don't violate your ethics. True. I dislike drama. I expect adults to behave as adults when it comes to conflict resolution. As for ethics, they are crucial. This is why I was so unhappy at my last job and part of the reason I did not willingly return: I have to be able to respect the man in the mirror, and there, I couldn't.

You feel the most appreciated when your partner admires your creativity, trusts your inspirations, and respects your values. The first two are nice; the last is mandatory.

It is also vitally important that your partner be open and emotionally available - in other words, that they be willing to share themselves completely. My days of prying everything out of my partner with a crowbar are behind me. I don't expect to know her every thought. It would be ridiculous to expect that she tell me everything. But if she won't share the important things with me, then yeah, we have an issue. Things likely will not work there.

Your group summary: Idealists (NF)
Your type summary: INFJ